Marina Abramovic and Ulay: Because We Never Stop Loving Silently Those We Once Loved Out Loud


The video below, of artist Marina Abromovic meeting a former lover, Ulay, brought tears to my eyes (and down my cheeks, dripping onto my laptop). It was filmed during her 2010 installation art piece (read more here if you’re unfamiliar with it) which was one of the most intense and gorgeous pieces of art I have ever seen. I went to see it when I was first dating my current boyfriend, and we had a several hours long discussion while we watched Marina create her art. I’ll never forget it. I didn’t see this moment, but I think almost all of us can relate to it in that heartbreaking joy-sadness-longing kind of way.

Long story short, “Marina Abromovic and Ulay started an intense love story in the 70s, performing art out of the van they lived in. When they felt the relationship had run its course, they decided to walk the Great Wall of China, each from one end, meeting for one last big hug in the middle and never seeing each other again.

At her 2010 MoMa retrospective Marina performed ‘The Artist Is Present’ as part of the show, where she shared a minute of silence with each stranger who sat in front of her. Ulay arrived without her knowing and this is what happened.”

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  1. If you had actually watched the dcoumentary you’d know they met numerous times before this ‘reunion’. But hey it must be true if it’s on the Internet.

    • I know we should not believe everything we read in the internet, but I believe certain lies are worth being told, all I tough about after I’ve seen the video was love and I felt really good until I read your comment, I’m not mad or judging cause I know you didn’t do it on purpose, but think about what I said 😉

  2. Well, they had planned on ‘never seeing each other again’ but like many things in life, things worked out differently. Yes, she had seen him months before but didn’t know he was going to show up during her show. I think it’s still really powerful – can you imagine what kind of emotional state you’d be in looking at strangers all day and then seeing someone who you not only know, but who is an former lover? I think it’s great.

    • Hi Starre, just wanted to let you know…I also think that this is great. This is truly great…witnessing a moment that people are sharing in such a beautiful space of love. It also brings tears to my eyes, and indeed streaming down my cheeks when I watch this.

  3. Wow, this definitely brought tears to my eyes. How powerful and beautiful. Even if they had seen each other months before, the emotion is obviously genuine.
    “Because we never stop loving silently those we once loved out loud.” So true here.

  4. What I would like to know is what happened afterwards? There is clearly so much love between them I cant believe (or may be don’t want to believe?) that there wasn’t some sort of reconciliation? Can any one help me please??

  5. This is really powerful! It Shows that words are really not needed…you can really feel the emotions and see that these 2 ex lovers obviously had a huge history together ! It’s beautiful!

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